If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right\u00a0 Henry Ford<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Those who are more spiritual, would refer to the Law of Attraction which states that like attracts like. It says that everything and everybody is a bundle of energy vibrating at a particular frequency. Just like a magnet, you attract what you put out. It is believed that we can learn to raise our frequency by controlling our thoughts.<\/p>\n
Whether you are spiritual in inclination or more grounded in science, the message is clear: by managing the brain, we can affect outcomes.<\/p>\n
In T’s case, she has probably spent a lifetime thinking that she cannot, or maybe even should not, sell herself. Maybe it was driven by a long-held belief such as being told as a child that boasting was bad. Whatever the reason, left unattended, T chances of getting the job she wants are severely diminished.<\/p>\n
However, it’s not all bad. In fact it’s hugely exciting. Armed with this knowledge, we can use it to\u00a0our advantage.<\/p>\n
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The first step is to monitor your dialogue. How often do you make negative statements about yourself or your perceived abilities? ‘I am rubbish at…’, ‘I hate my…’, ‘I wish I was…’, ‘That always happens when…’, ‘I can’t…’, ‘…is so much better than me’. And so on.<\/p>\n
Once you look out for it, you will find that it usually happens very regularly. Keep a record of how many negative thoughts and messages your brain is receiving on a daily basis. Try and establish which areas of your life they play out in and watch for patterns. It can help to write them down. When internalised, thoughts have more power to control. When they are out in the open, that power is diminished and you can see them more clearly for what they are.<\/p>\n
Sometimes what you discover can be quite shocking. Imagine the impact it would have if you said the same things to a friend. Yet, that is exactly what we do to ourselves, relentlessly. Not a recipe for success and happiness.<\/p>\n
Once you get used to recognising the signs, you can start to change the focus and the language used. For T, ‘I am not great at interviews’ becomes ‘I am getting better all the time at interviews because each one is a chance to get feedback that will help me improve.’ Immediately the heat is taken out of the situation. Fear and negativity are replaced with a more balanced and realistic perspective. Not only is a more positive outcome much more likely, but the boost to confidence and self-esteem is huge.<\/p>\n
Giving yourself a hard time serves no purpose. Mind your language and go easy on yourself and you will be amazed how different life can feel.<\/p>\n
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